Marriages of Honour and Respect
In today’s world, marriage is often misunderstood or devalued. Yet, God’s design for marriage remains beautiful, profound, and foundational for society. As outlined in 1 Peter 3:1-7, marriages built on honour and respect reflect God’s heart and His plan for His people.
The Christian view of marriage isn’t about perfection, but about two imperfect people walking together with God. When we honour and respect our spouse, we cultivate an environment where God can work powerfully. Sadly, contempt—disregard or disrespect—can slowly erode a relationship. Leading marriage researcher John Gottman calls contempt one of the key predictors of divorce. However, 1 Peter gives us an antidote: honour. By desiring the best for our spouse and calling them into the fullness of God’s plan, we can fight against this destructive force.
Peter addresses complex marriage dynamics, particularly when a Christian spouse is married to a non-believer – he specifically speaks to a believing wife towards an unbelieving husband. He urges believers to respond with honour and love, allowing their character and conduct to serve as a witness of Christ. Through a gentle and quiet spirit—not through nagging or argument—the believing spouse can reflect Jesus’ love.
Husbands, too, are called to honour their wives by supporting them spiritually, emotionally, and physically. This includes initiating prayer, Bible reading, and creating a home environment where love and respect flourish. By being present and attentive to their wife’s needs, husbands can model Christ-like love.
Ultimately, a marriage that honours and submits to God’s design becomes a witness of His faithfulness and grace. Whether you’re in a challenging situation or seeking to grow in love, may our marriages reflect the honour and submission that bring glory to God.